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#1 Watch out for RED flag questions.

Red flag questions are questions such as; how much do you make a year? Are you a homeowner? and what type of car do you drive? Oh and we must not forget the pressing question: How many kids do you have? These are the top 3 questions that a gold digger will ask you on the first conversation or if you are lucky, on your first date with her.

How much do you make a year? Why would she ask this question? Because a gold digger is a mobile calculator, therefore every question that relates to money is calculated to determine the percentage of the total amount that she believes she “deserves”.

Are you a homeowner? And what type of car do you drive? If that type of woman asks you those particular questions, then she is trying to determine your overall worth and whether being with you is a profitable investment for her. She would expect and only accept you if you are homeowner and you drive a luxury vehicle.

How many kids do you have? Your answer to the question will help her determine (calculate) much of your income and attention goes to your children and how much time you can devote to her. A gold digger is a needy individual that will take up a lot of your money, time and energy.

#2 She’s firm on only dating men who are wealthy and can take care of her.

Most women want to be with a man that is capable of providing for them in the future; however, gold diggers need to be with a man that will take care of them. This means that she will expect you to take care of all the expenses, provide her will a monthly income and daily allowances for her special needs. Continue Reading »

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All too often you overhear in conversation that someone—typically a woman—has been accused of being a “gold digger”. Universally, the term carries a negative connotation, and is understood to mean that she who is the subject of such discussion is “in it for the money”.

So why is this concept met with such invective from guys everywhere? That’s a great question, and I’m glad you asked.

I think the hard feelings can be summarized in two basic elements:

1) Women who are just looking for $$$ out of a relationship are considered shallow. Does she not even care about the guy at all?

2) Women who are after a megabucks lifestyle courtesy of some guy are quite simply expressing an expectation that most “mere mortal” men can’t satisfy.

The net-net of it all is that men feel frustration and resentment towards women who portray this persona, hence the disdainful moniker of “gold digger” is pronounced upon them.

So lets talk about this. First, what can we learn from this phenomenon?

Well, you know me. We’re all about “chick whispering” around here. If men and women BOTH can understand and relate to what kind of emotions are generated here, we can all benefit from the discussion. So let me go ahead and throw it out on the table. Guys: You know that empty, almost disgusted feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you suspect that the woman you are seeing is only going out with you because you take her to fancy restaurants and buy her expensive gifts? Yeah, well…that’s EXACTLY how a woman feels when she suspects a guy is only interested in her as a sexual conquest.

Did that hit you like a ton of bricks? Maybe so.

But just for the sake of clarification, let’s level the playing field. Ladies: If you are prioritizing material gain in your dating life, you are NO DIFFERENT than the man who is singularly sex-focused.

Think about it. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are bent on selfish intent you are giving the people you date negative vibes. Typing that last statement, it seemed so obvious a concept to me. Yet, people everywhere have been known to habitually operate as such. Why? Because it works…sometimes. Or it least it would appear that way. The tragedy of it all is that whether you are a man or a woman, selfish manipulation really only succeeds in keeping around DESPERATE people who feel devoid of other options.

What do you know? Once again, people get what they deserve. Continue Reading »

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Scent products trigger physical attraction by spreading pleasing fragrances. These are mood enhancers on relaxing and pleasurable evenings you spend with your lover. However, the odor of the natural sweat of a man is said to be highly attractive to women.

Women are sensitive to male pheromones (scented sex hormones) during the period of ovulation. Among body pheromones, androstenol is the body scent produced by fresh male sweat, and it is often attractive to women. Even though androstenol is by itself capable of attracting women, men are eager to use pheromone-based scents to draw women to them. An experiment carried out to prove this attractive power of male pheromones has shown that women frequently choose a pheromone-sprayed chair in a dentist’s waiting room.

Scents that attract women include concentrated sprays with ingredients such as flower essences, roots, wild grasses, exotic barks, rare wine resins, and essential oils. These not only attract the opposite sex, but also increase their sexual desires. Aphrodisiac scents such as cinnamon, vanilla body spray, and musk have intense stimulating effects and boost sexual arousal in women immediately. Natural aphrodisiac, a new formula for men to attract women, is manufactured on the basis of the isolation and synthesis of unique pheromone compounds, which are mixed with essential oils to produce a scent. The scents are normally applied to the neck or forearm or on the clothes. You can wear these scents anytime. Some others are usually worn behind the ears or on the wrist. For the best results, apply the scents directly to the skin instead of the clothing.

Today, around forty unique scents are available that come in bottles with spray tops. One bottle may last up to two months. Many dealers offer discount and free shipping options.

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The colours of the clothes you choose are very important, depending on your skin tone and complexion. Below is a list of what colours to wear and what colours to avoid for each different skin tone.

Dark skin tone Men who are dark-skinned tend to have black or dark brown hair and eyes. If this skin tone includes you then the colors that you wear should contrast with your dark features. The contrast breaks up an otherwise dull look and catches the eye.

Colors you look your best in: pink white khaki baby blue gray

Colors you should avoid: black dark brown turquoise spring green magenta

You should stay away from tropical colors and really dark shades. While black and navy blue are hard to avoid altogether because they basically make up the corporate uniform, try to keep them to a minimum and wear only when necessary.

Medium skin tone Anything from blonde locks to jet-black manes, their eye color can vary from baby blue to onyx black. This skin tone is probably the most useful; as it means that you can wear just about any color and still look good. This is because light and dark colours contrast nicely with your skin tone.

Colors you look your best in: beige burgundy royal blue navy black pink (stripes)

Colors you should avoid: pistachio mauve dark brown red olive

The only colors that you should really avoid are those that might blend in too closely with your skin tone. For example, if you have an olive complexion, avoid wearing olive-colored or brown clothing.

Pale skin tone Pale-skinned men will tend to have red, blonde, or dirty blonde hair. Their eye color is often just as fair, including green, blue, gray, or hazel. If you match this description, your best bet is to go with more subdued colors and pastels. These will blend well with your skin tone, and create a look that’s both appealing and relaxing to the eye. Continue Reading »

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I want be honest here.

Meeting the right kind of woman is a difficult thing to do. While it’s easy to walk into your local bar and pick up ANY woman, it’s hard to find one who matches your personality and interests. This is especially true if you want to meet the cultured and sophisticated woman who doesn’t spend her weekends getting drunk.

Consider this fact: If you want to find a sophisticated woman you have to places where she’ll be.

Sounds easy right?

Well if you can’t think of any places, then read below.

In this article, I give 6 examples of places where you can find a sophisticated woman.

1- Wine Tasting

A great place to find a refined woman is at a wine tasting event. Now if you enjoy tasting different wine and spending a pleasant afternoon in an outdoor environment, then this is a great place to meet women in a relaxed atmosphere.

If you’re not familiar with wine tasting events, they are events organized by club or business as a way to get people to judge different wines while being able to meet different people.

What’s great about wine-tasting events is you get to enjoy a fun hobby while mingling and engaging different people in conversation. Of course, the alcohol in your system makes it a lot easier to talk to women.

2- Libraries

Another *intellectual* place to meet women is at your local public or academic library. While some people go here strictly for research or work, you can still find a good number of women who like browse the stacks and look at different books.

As long as you locate a woman who isn’t too preoccupied, you can initiate her in conversations without being too forward. Typically I like to mention something about the book she’s looking at and then let the conversation from her.

3- Dinner Clubs

All over the country there are special organizations called dinner clubs. The focus of these groups is to bring compatible people based on age, interests and background for dinner and conversations.

What I like about dinner clubs is you get to meet a number of people (not just women) and make instant connections in laid back atmosphere. Furthermore, you can engage women in conversations without feeling the pressures of a date. Continue Reading »

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Online dating is a multi-million dollar business, but for my money, I’d rather meet girls the natural way: out and about, in real-life situations. Not the bar, not the club. Just natural, fun ways that get both of you participating and talking about common interests and acquaintances.

Think that’s not possible? Au contraire. There are LOTS of great places to meet girls that don’t involve shelling out $75 a night for drinks or $30 just to get into a club. I met my girlfriend of the last two years on a tour through Berlin, and I know another guy who met his wife in his economics class. In both cases, we guys didn’t EXPECT anything to happen, and that was key. Remember, when you’re not looking, that’s when girls tend to show up! Expect the unexpected.

Besides this fact, girls LOVE to have a romantic story about how they met you. Believe me, they’d rather say that they met you in a one-in-a-million chance encounter in Paris than in a club, dancing to raunchy music. You have to appeal to their romantic sensibilities. Just look at all the Hollywood movies, like “Sleepless in Seattle”, where girls meet guys on the radio, on the Empire State Building, in places you generally WOULDN’T EXPECT TO MEET.

It’s a fundamental rule: Girls don’t want the everyday, the routine, the expected. They want the unexpected, the unlikely, the unbelievable. They want something special they can tell all their friends, and that’s why looking—or rather, NOT actively looking—outside the regular venues is a winning idea.

So what are some places I recommend for meeting the love of your life? Well, of course you can’t HAVE the attitude that you’re looking; just play it cool, and be patient. I recommend the following five places:

Abroad. While travelling solo can work, it’s even better to go on a tour. Instant access to lots of girls travelling alone (or with a friend), and wanting to find a man of their own. Tours are GREAT ways for meeting chicks. And no matter where you’re from, there are SO many benefits to going to a country carrying a foreign accent.

At work. I ONLY recommend this if you are not in the same exact office together; you need some distance between you in case things go south. NEVER go for a girl who works 5 feet away from you; it will just create too many problems. My best friend’s messy relationship with an office mate proves this! But I dated a girl who worked in another department, and the break-up was fine; no messy office problems, no anxiety in the workplace. So if the attraction is there, right along with the distance, work offers a bounty of potential mates. Continue Reading »

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Back to evolution, the most important thing to show your woman is that she can feel safe with
you. The Man has to be POWERFUL enough to LEAD her. But, if you are in a restaurant
and she is the one who has to choose the table where you sit, then has to order the food while
listening to you say, “You are soooo beautiful. I don’t deserve such a beauty,” what will she
think? Is this man capable of protecting her? Does she feel safe with him? No.

So the No. 1 quality a Man has is the ability to lead.

Here are the other two as well:

2. A Man always has options, self-respect and is never needy.

3. A Man knows how to treat her.

Let’s look at No. 1 again: A Man knows how to lead, and he is confident in his role. You
know how hard it is to be the captain of a ship? You are constantly forced to make decisions
and take responsibilities. A slight sign of uncertainty is enough for you to lose the faith of
your whole crew and probably the ship as well. How could 40 people follow their captain if
he showed signs of hesitation and uncertainty? If you were in the crew, would you risk your
life for such a captain? Not likely. Would you do it for a confident and resolute one who is
always certain, even if he makes mistakes at times? Yes.

It’s almost the same with women. There are two people in a boat: you and she. You are the
captain. She expects you to lead. At the first sign of uncertainty, she will jump out of
your boat and choose another one. You will constantly have to be on your toes when
making decisions. No one cares if it’s a good or bad decision; it’s you who will take the
responsibility in the end. Young guys can’t take responsibilities. To be a Man, you have to
learn that first. Each and every decision you make will have a consequence. You can
postpone making it, but sooner or later, you will have to decide. And it might be too late by
then.

So back to our list, the second point is: A Man always has options, self-respect and is never
needy. Yes. What do I mean by having OPTIONS? Initially, the woman is in the position of
power. She is the one who chooses. And she knows this very well. When you approach her,
she can reject you. When it’s time to kiss her, she can say no. When you want to have sex, she
can refuse it. That’s all true. But how do we make sure that she doesn’t have a choice? Ha!
By being a Man. She will see that you are one of the few “select” instantly and know this is
her one and only chance to meet somebody like you. She knows you can move on and get
another woman whenever you want. Continue Reading »

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I hope I don’t need to stress how important it is to be well groomed, neat and looking your
best when meeting girls. They spend hours in front of the mirror to look good; we can at
least be hygienic. Shave every day, wash your hair, use deodorant etc… Cut the nails on your hands and feet, and clean the dirt from under your nails. Use foot-antiperspirants if your feet smell bad. Clean your shoes often, and always iron your clothes. Mind the color of your socks, and don’t mix them. Put on a clean shirt and underwear every day.

Such small details are very important to women. When making your first impression, they will judge you based on this. Even if you don’t consider yourself good-looking, there are certain steps you can take to LOOK YOUR BEST. You don’t have to look as if you just stepped out of some fashion magazine, but a Man knows how to dress and how to look fine. Just by doing that, he leaves a good impression on people. If you look like a nerd, you’re making your own life harder. So take my advice:

1. Go to a hairstylist. I suggest visiting the best salon in your city. Don’t spare money on your looks. Ask the stylist what hairstyle he/she thinks would be the best for your face and character. Just by getting a stylish and cool haircut, you can change your image a lot. If long hair goes well with your face, wear it that way (but keep it clean!). If shorter or totally bald is better, go for that look. Don’t be afraid to ask your hairstylist; he’s there to help. If you don’t want to spend that much money, go to the best salon once, show your new haircut to your favorite hairstylist and have him/her cut it that way afterwards.

2. Glasses. They usually don’t look good. Drop them, and wear contact lenses instead. There are very few people who look good in glasses. If you have to wear them, try to find a pair that suits the shape of your face. Sunglasses can make you look cool in the summer. Just choose them wisely. You can ask a clerk at the shop to help you find a good pair.

3. Shaving. Shave your face, or trim your beard. If you have too much hair on your body, trim it to make yourself look smoother. It doesn’t matter whether you keep your pubic hair or shave it off, but if you keep it, make sure that it’s well trimmed and looks neat. If you wear sleeveless T-shirts, shave your armpits.

4. Dressing. This is one of the most important things about your looks. Go to the trendiest club in your city and take a look at how guys dress. If you think it might suit your image, look at what models wear. Go to the nearest shopping center with one of your friend girls (or, you have to go alone, ask the shop clerk), and buy some stylish new clothes. Read fashion magazines or men’s magazines. Always dress fashionably. Find a style that suits your personality which is trendy at the same time. Continue Reading »

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>Appearance: One of the first lessons with appearance is to make sure you look your best at all times, you never know when and where you will meet a beautiful woman. Women are mainly attracted to a neat look, they like a man to be well groomed and presentable. Your clothes will have to match and will have to be clean. Make sure your include everything with your appearance, women will notice every little detail such as if you nails are clean, if your hair is washed and if your clothes are clean. Smelling appropriately is also very important make sure you smell great.

Colognes: How you smell is very important to a woman, and it is another method to get a different sense of hers tingling. It is not only important to buy the right cologne you need to apply it correctly. You should not apply cologne to your face (that is for aftershave) or on your clothes cologne is made for the skin, the key areas to apply the scent is on the chest, the back of your neck, behind your ears and on your wrists. Also it is crucial that you do not spray too much on you do not want the smell to be overbearing, just enough to get her attention. When applying behind the ears just put a little in your palms and dab behind your ear. Another important point is to change round your cologne especially when you get to know a girl better, this way she keeps guessing what your going to smell like and gets her really interested.

Colognes that women like:

Davidoff - cool water

Giorgio Armani - Acqua Di Gio

Channel Allure – Homme Sport (recommended cologne)

Ralph Lauren – Polo sport

Lacoste – Style in play

Belts: Belts are very important fashion accessories and you need to make sure you get it right. It’d easy to remember hat goes with what, black shoes = black belt, brown shoes = brown belt. If you wearing a watch there is another part you must match, a silver watch goes with a silver buckle and a gold watch goes with a gold buckle. Continue Reading »

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Anyone who’s not used to approaching strangers will have a fear of it. That’s normal.
Some people will find it easy; some will find it really hard to overcome this. It’s like you’re an actor going on stage for the first time in front of a large audience. You will feel your heart pumping, butterflies in your stomach and a lump in your throat … Even the most seasoned actors will feel anxiety before going on stage, but the difference is that they LEARN TO CONTROL IT.

So that’s what you will have to do as well. Learn to control your fear and anxiety of approaching women you don’t know. Women strangers - man, how scary does that sound? You never did that, right? You will, my friend, you will! There are two schools of thought on dealing with the fear of approaching strangers. The first advocates therapy, as ridiculous as that may sound. In my opinion, doing a few exercises in your imagination might help somewhat, but won’t bring noticeable results.
What I subscribe to is shock therapy. That’s how I got rid of my fear back when.

If you want to quit smoking, you won’t do it with a bunch of nicotine patches. You’ll have to make the decision to stop for good. From that point on, there is no more smoking. It’s the same with girls. You’re standing in a club surrounded by girls. Your heart is pounding. What should you do? You will decide to end your misery FOR ONCE and approach a girl RIGHT NOW … just one of them. Of course, your first approach won’t be perfect. But as the saying goes, practice makes perfect. And that’s why I recommend mass approaches for your first time. Continue Reading »

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